Being in the moment is good for business. It's good for your family. It's good for your peace of mind. It's polite.
We hear about "being in the moment" all of the time. It sounds "touchy-feely" to a process person like me. The good news is, you can make a process of it.
What does the process look like? Well, it doesn't look like a digital device. It looks like being aware of what is around you, or who is in front of you. What does it feel like? It feels intentional. Focused.
Let's take a look at how you apply this process:
In The Charisma Myth, Olivia Fox Cabane talks about the importance of presence in having charisma. Charisma enhances your influence -- to close deals, motivate employees, and develop your business. The process is simple:
Healthy families have healthy boundaries. For more information about this, I highly recommend the book Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. The process for being in the moment in a family setting is to set boundaries. Our approach was to have a "family meeting," and agree to what those boundaries would be -- and we all held each other accountable. The two main rules in our family were a) absolutely no phones at meals, and b) if someone is speaking to you, you look up from your electronic device and make eye contact. I've heard of other boundaries, e.g., checking in everyone's phone at a certain time at a central charging point, or no electronics one hour before bedtime.
What's important is that you let your family know they are important. Especially as kids get older, it's advisable for parents to listen to the sub-text of what the teen is saying to understand what is really going on in his/her life. It's important for empty-nesters to maintain that connection of affection and respect, even after the kids are gone. And they will be gone before you know it -- and you will regret those lost moments.
PEACE OF MIND
If you are not in the moment with yourself, you are probably indulging in anxiety or guilt, neither of which is productive. You might be anxious about what has to be done and isn't, or guilty about what has been done and shouldn't have been. Do not misunderstand -- I am a big planner! But after I plan, I try to take things one a time and be fully focused on that one thing. Some other tips for you to consider:
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